How about a little TRUTH from YOU test?
The offending player sent you an apology many hours before you decided to make your first post. He did this as soon as he was made aware of you wife's illness, and as you yourself had said, MOST people in the game had no knowledge.
For those to lazy, indifferent, or stuck on the "party line", it is reproduced below. It also went to your Captain NSane as he was the first person to bring the illness to my players attention. [21:17] Zachariah : I had no idea your wife was ill. If I had, that name never would have been used. My apologies for what in retrospect was in poor taste. Aaron told me about it, as well as your captain, NSane. Aaron ordered me to change it, but knowing what I know now, I'd have done so anyway. Zach
[Above cut and pasted from another thread.]
As an FYI, due to the perceived widespread hatred of you, test, the guy simply thought it would be funny to have even your wife attacking you. He knew nothing of the illness.
I drew it to his attention, as did your captain, NSane. http://prntscr.com/9vqy6j Look at the time stamps. He apologized right away.
As for me, I have inquired about your wife's health and commiserated with you regularly. I never said a thing to my league because that was your private business.
I'm not going to say you never received the apology, as I well know a busy marshal has many PMs run right off the list often before even seen. (Plarium has a limit for storage). In any case, neither KT3, nor Zach, nor myself have in any way intended you personal grief or mocked you wife's illness.
Hopeful you'll realize this and for what it is, unfortunate, but not deliberate.
If it means anything to you, I apologize for the whole mess.
Aaron