Communication is the thing that really makes a difference in the things that happen to you in the game. If you get raided a lot by the same person just have a talk with him/her (nice one not rude). Most of the people are friendly and understandable . They will stop bothering you if you have a good communication with them. When i started i got raided and sieged a LOT (lost the bubble 1 hr after started). That got me mad but after trying to talk with those guys i didn't had to do anything else. Those that were my worst enemy's when i started are now my best allies and all of this because communication.
Of course you have to build troops tho bcs you can't survive with only talking and talking. But it gives you time to build up and get stronger at the start till you are ready to join a good fight.